The Healthy Tilghman Mission

Anyone in Bay Hundred is encouraged to seek assistance and resources for crisis, addiction, counseling, preventive measures, and healthy living through Healthy Tilghman.

In early 2017 efforts were begun to strengthen the health and wellness of the Bay Hundred Community through a collaborative known as “Healthy Tilghman.” It is a partnership and outreach of Tilghman United Methodist Church and For All Seasons, Behavioral Health and Rape Crisis Center, Inc. 

Building healthy mind, body, and spirit in the Bay Hundred community is Healthy Tilghman’s mission.


Special Coronavirus Section


Healthy Mind Message #1

Dealing With Our Community Mental Health

Dear neighbor and friend of Healthy Tilghman:

We have all been overwhelmed with information on the current COVID-19 pandemic. The best advice remains to follow what our State and local Health Departments Advise.(e.g. https://phpa.health.marylandgov/Documents/FAQ_covid19_Maintaining_Mental_Health.pdf). Remember Too much information, from sources such as sensationalizing public media, will actually create more anxiety and fear and cause the worsening of our personal and community health. Keep television to brief 10-15 minute updates, 2-3 times a day most. Use your television more for escape, entertainment and distraction, i.e. keeping your inner balance. If you feel overwhelmed, you need to restore your balance. Restore it by reaching out to others, praying, exercise, meditation, gardening, walking, writing or writing a letter, looking at our beautiful blooming trees and new birds- do normal within the guidelines of social distance and self care.

  • Tilghman United Methodist Church and Pastor Herb Cain can be reached at 410-886-2045 . Pastor Herb is available to anyone.
  • Mental Health Counseling will continue via phone using the same numbers. Some will shift to Easton or as set up by the Caroline Eglseder, LMSW for Tilghman office here. Call 410-822-1018. Tell receptionist you are from Tilghman area or ask for Caroline. Counselling will continue to be available.
  • Choptank Health is available at 410-866-2222.
  • Our Peers Supports also remain available for assistance by contacting Rose Regan at 410-886-9862. 
  • Exercise classes sponsored by Healthy Tilghman have been cancelled until further notice. Susan Roecker or Carol Zappe will keep us informed. 
  • Food is available by increased access to food banks (see attached) and our wonderful local merchants (also see attached What’s Happening).

All this points to what we “can do.”  That’s one way we defeat any sense of powerlessness and despair. Together we can.

Stress and fear can drive these moments. For this reason I’m planning to send out occasional, very BRIEF, psychological tips on how to deal with this time and its sense of fear and powerlessness. This is the first, longer than will be the others. 

Also, I’d welcome any ideas you may have that can be added. Just let me know; 1) any thought or tip to be added- and/or: 2) if you do not wish to receive these emails.   

Feeling trapped, awaiting for some things outside of our control does not mean we cannot do things internally to increase our sense of self, community and life. Now more than ever even a smile or a kindness is healing. 

Mike Flaherty
Healthy Tilghman
(410) 886-1108


The Psychology Minute

By now we all feel a bit “confined.” Or should. Remember, our brains are remarkable adaptive machines – and know we can control them. Just think of those living on submarines or in space for months. However, if we think negatively we will produce anxiety or negative feelings which in turn create even more negative thoughts which create even more negative feelings and thoughts, and so on until we have “catastrophized” ourselves right out of objectivity, balance and reality into panic. Not fun. Our mood is down. Our heart rate is up.

One major key we have to break this downward cycle is compassion. Isolation and subjectivity are balanced by the freedom provided providing doses of “compassion” toward others, being kind to ourselves and staying busy, e.g. exercise and structuring our day. By structure I mean doing certain activities in the morning, others by plan in the afternoon and later. Evening – or when its dark – is best for relaxation and restoration. The structure done repeatedly provided order, calm, distraction, normal stress and, ultimately, security. Ha. Structure is particularly important for children and youth. 

Try it. It works. Remember we’re in this together. 


Healthy Mind Message #2

Coping With Today’s Stress

“The key to getting through this is knowing that now little things become big things. Reach out to someone daily, especially to those living alone, older or struggling. Its the way now. Try it. Watch what happens. Humanity defeats isolation and fear.”

FOR KIDS & FAMILIES

From our counselor, Caroline Eglseder LMSW, advice with kids home. “Kids do best with structure. Keep a schedule or routine.” For example, something like:

  • 7:00- 9:00 wake up, morning tidy, breakfast, get dressed
  • 9:00-11:00 outside activities/necessary errands only 
  • 11:00 snack time/play time
  • 12:00-2:00 lunch and rest time (books, movies, music) for littles, homework time for school age
  • 2:00-3:00 music time
  • 3:00-4:00 mindfulness/yoga
  • 4:00-5:00 free play 

FOR ALL:

A Prayer and Wisdom to live by, to be said as often as needed until  -lived.  Shared by someone in A.A. – where acceptance and powerlessness are faced daily.

God grant me the SERENITY to accept the things I cannot change, the COURAGE to change the things I can and the WISDOM to know the difference.”

          – Serenity Prayer, Reinhold Niebuhr

Mike Flaherty
Healthy Tilghman
(410) 886-1108


HEALTHY MIND MESSAGE #4

Poem From Ireland

Lockdown

Yes there is fear.
Yes there is isolation.
Yes there is panic buying.
Yes there is sickness.
Yes there is even death.
But,
They say that in Wuhan after so many years of noise
You can hear the birds again.
They say that after just a few weeks of quiet
The sky is no longer thick with fumes
But blue and grey and clear.
They say that in the streets of Assisi
People are singing to each other
across the empty squares,
keeping their windows open
so that those who are alone
may hear the sounds of family around them.
They say that a hotel in the West of Ireland
Is offering free meals and delivery to the housebound.
Today a young woman I know
is busy spreading fliers with her number
through the neighbourhood
So that the elders may have someone to call on.
Today Churches, Synagogues, Mosques and Temples
are preparing to welcome
and shelter the homeless, the sick, the weary
All over the world people are slowing down and reflecting
All over the world people are looking at their neighbours in a new way
All over the world people are waking up to a new reality
To how big we really are.
To how little control we really have.
To what really matters.
To Love.
So we pray and we remember that
Yes there is fear.
But there does not have to be hate.
Yes there is isolation.
But there does not have to be loneliness.
Yes there is panic buying.
But there does not have to be meanness.
Yes there is sickness.
But there does not have to be disease of the soul
Yes there is even death.
But there can always be a rebirth of love.
Wake to the choices you make as to how to live now.
Today, breathe.
Listen, behind the factory noises of your panic
The birds are singing again
The sky is clearing,
Spring is coming,
And we are always encompassed by Love.
Open the windows of your soul
And though you may not be able
to touch across the empty square,
Sing.

Richard Hendrick, Capuchin Franciscan Brother, Dublin, Ireland

    – written while in a lockdown, March 13th,  2020


Healthy Mind Message #3

Tips on dealing with isolation and loneliness

Isolation and loneliness can be killers. Feeling restricted, alone and powerless will increase our stress and fear by at least 25-50%. It will make things seem worse than they are – always. But we are not powerless. In fact we are all doing something BIG and important together – by practicing thoughtful prevention and staying safe we are saving others, our neighbors and our family and friends. This isn’t doing “nothing.” Its doing “hard.” “BIG HARD.” As they say in healthcare and A.A.., “the final power in life is to be at home with powerlessness.”

Rule #1 with hard: Never be in a hard place alone. Reach out. Talk, call, pray,  email, journal, write, read positive things (Bible, novels, magazines) check on a neighbor, open up the photos on your phone and relive that past good days – do this and watch your mood lift. 

Television is a plus and minus activity. For virus updates, two 20 minute news updates per day (TV or radio) or stick to reading about the virus from sources you can trust (e.g. CDC (www.cdc.gov or health.maryland.gov ).  Television or any screen time (e.g. computer or phone) on its own, even in healthy times, can increase anxiety and depression if watched for 5 or more hours a day. Don’t let screen time, catastrophic thinking or saturation with fear get you. Stay balanced, reach out, do positive and distracting things and be kind – we are all in this TOGETHER. No isolation. 

Mike Flaherty
Healthy Tilghman
(410) 886-1108


What to do with the kids for your –  and their sanity?

See: https://www.latimes.com/lifestyle/story/2020-03-26/10-things-to-do-right-now-inside-with-young-kids 


A Picture Of Hope

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