The Healthy Tilghman Mission

Anyone in Bay Hundred is encouraged to seek assistance and resources for crisis, addiction, counseling, preventive measures, and healthy living through Healthy Tilghman.

In early 2017 efforts were begun to strengthen the health and wellness of the Bay Hundred Community through a collaborative known as “Healthy Tilghman.” It is a partnership and outreach of Tilghman United Methodist Church and For All Seasons, Behavioral Health and Rape Crisis Center, Inc. 

Building healthy mind, body, and spirit in the Bay Hundred community is Healthy Tilghman’s mission.

Special Coronavirus Section

The New Crisis for COVID-19 –
Mental Health and Substance Use Reoccurrence

A message from Beth Anne Langrell, CEO, For All Seasons

While we might be planning to resume some aspects of our lives this coming week as the Governor’s stay-at-home order is lifted, there is an insidious crisis brewing in our communities. The isolation created by COVID-19 has created the perfect storm in mental health – growing desperation has increased suicide rates and the recurrence of substance use disorders in our communities. While the reasons are complex, each of us can play a part in the solutions.

For the last five years, For All Seasons counselors have been seeing clients at the Tilghman United Methodist Church through a program called “Healthy Tilghman.” The program provides healthy mind, body, and spirit outreach in the Tilghman community focusing on a peer support network in the community, as well as counseling and community education. Michael Flaherty, Ph.D., a psychologist who practices in Pennsylvania and has national expertise in addiction and mental health issues, helped found “Healthy Tilghman” and knows his community and the difficulties it is facing. He comments, “Under the stress of confinement, the world becomes smaller and small things become big things, and sensitivity becomes higher. This can mean that small environments can make people act out in greater ways.”

Flaherty adds, “Nationally, there has been a 7 to 10 percent increase in recurrences of substance use disorders since COVID-19. While there have not been any overdose deaths yet in Talbot County, there have been overdoses. Statistics show that 20 percent of overdose deaths are suicide-related. With fragile people, it is going to happen. We need a higher degree of patience and understanding during this time.”

To date, Healthy Tilghman has had great success reaching the Bay Hundred community to provide support for mental health issues and addiction. Community volunteers have been the eyes and ears of the community, connecting people to necessary resources, and people are using telehealth services more and more to receive therapy and support.

“Although we are making strides, people are still experiencing anxiety and depression during this crisis and using substances for coping. Some of the reoccurrences of the illness are because of confinement and not having support. People are finding it hard to cope,” Flaherty comments, adding, “A lot of people didn’t realize they had such a dependency on substances and are finding that their dependency is greater during this time.”

Flaherty says that some signs and symptoms of someone contemplating suicide, may include making plans to commit suicide by giving things away or finalizing a will; becoming increasingly withdrawn; experiencing increasing despair and a sense of hopelessness; sleep disorders and mood swings; and a recurrence of substance abuse with drinking and drugging. Family members are often the first-line responders in these situations.  Connecting people to family peer support specialists or peer support specialists can make the real difference in someone getting the help they need.

Valerie Albee, founder of Mariah’s Mission, and a family peer support specialist in Easton has been on the frontline helping families cope with the challenges of substance use disorder both virtually and in-person while social distancing. She comments, “These are trying times for many. I offer as much hope as I can for people, but it is a complicated issue and there is difficulty right now getting people timely treatment.”

She explains that while there is now a proliferation of online 12-Step meetings through virtual technology, the isolation created by COVID-19 has affected families with addictions and mental health challenges. Stress, fear, joblessness, and other factors have contributed to increases in relapses both fatal and non-fatal. She states, “These individuals and their families are not strong enough to deal with this crisis by themselves, and they have immediate needs. Managing household resources and maintaining the quality of life for a loved one suffering from a substance use or mental health disorder is very challenging.”

Both Flaherty and Albee agree that individual and Family Peer Support Specialists can be vital in assisting people in crisis. Family Support Specialists like Albee have had training and lived through personal experience dealing with a loved one in crisis. Peer Support Specialists have personally lived with substance use challenges and found recovery.

Flaherty says that the question to pose to the person in crisis is, “What will it take to get you to connect to services?” He states that people should keep encouraging a family member/friend to make the call to receive help, and if the person is unable to care for themselves, they should call one of the crisis hotlines on behalf of the person. Their personal experience, along with extensive training can provide vital help.

Beth Anne Langrell, CEO of For All Seasons Behavioral Health and Rape Crisis Center, adds, “We want family members and friends to know that they don’t have to solve the problem, but they can help connect people to community resources. For All Seasons is expanding its messaging around suicide during Mental Health Awareness Month. By following the steps: Ask how a friend is doing, Listen to what they have to say, and Share that you care about them and you know where to find help, family members and friends can be the crucial first step to getting help.”

She adds, “The mental health community has strengthened the delivery of services and is improving access to information, which is having a positive impact through this crisis. The list we have compiled of resources can be a lifesaver when faced with any of these crises.”

For All Seasons provides therapy, advocacy, psychiatry, and education to Caroline, Dorchester, Kent, Queen Anne, and Talbot counties. The agency accepts all private insurances, medical assistance, and supports English and Spanish speaking individuals regardless of one’s ability to pay. For All Seasons 24-Hour, confidential crisis hotlines are 410.820.5600 for English Hotline and 410.829.6143 for Spanish Hotline. Text available in English or Spanish at 410.829.6143.

The Psychology Minute with Mike Flaherty

What WE can do to defeat any sense of powerlessness and despair:

  • Tilghman United Methodist Church and Pastor Herb Cain can be reached at 410-886-2045 . Pastor Herb is available to anyone.
  • Mental Health Counseling will continue via phone using the same numbers. Some will shift to Easton or as set up by the Caroline Eglseder, LMSW for Tilghman office here. Call 410-822-1018. Tell receptionist you are from Tilghman area or ask for Caroline. Counselling will continue to be available.
  • Choptank Health is available at 410-866-2222.
  • Our Peer Support also remains available for assistance by contacting Rose Regan at 410-886-9862. 
  • Exercise classes sponsored by Healthy Tilghman have been cancelled until further notice. Susan Roecker or Carol Zappe will keep us informed. 
  • Food is available by increased access to food banks (see attached) and our wonderful local merchants (also see attached What’s Happening).

A Perspective on Sacrifice

OK, it’s getting long. So long its almost beginning to feel boring and oddly normal. “Enough,” you say. Some ask, “what’s the point of this and add “I’m going out.” Slow down. The numbers and messages from our leaders don’t support that yet. Be safe. Be patient. Study the below cartoon from the Pittsburgh Post Gazette of April 2nd. It has a perspective to share. 

To enlarge, Right Click on picture and select View Image

What to do with the kids for your –  and their sanity?


More TIPS For Kids & Families

From our counselor, Caroline Eglseder LMSW, advice with kids home. “Kids do best with structure. Keep a schedule or routine.” For example, something like:

  • 7:00- 9:00 wake up, morning tidy, breakfast, get dressed
  • 9:00-11:00 outside activities/necessary errands only 
  • 11:00 snack time/play time
  • 12:00-2:00 lunch and rest time (books, movies, music) for littles, homework time for school age
  • 2:00-3:00 music time
  • 3:00-4:00 mindfulness/yoga
  • 4:00-5:00 free play 

Everything is Waiting For You

Poet David Whyte reminds us “To feel abandoned is to deny the intimacy of our surroundings. You must note the way the soap dish enables you, or the window sash grants you freedom…” Hear the full poem at:

Poem From Ireland

Serenity Prayer

A Prayer and Wisdom to live by

“God grant me the SERENITY to accept the things I cannot change, the COURAGE to change the things I can and the WISDOM to know the difference.” Reinhold Niebuhr

“Kindness is a language the Deaf can hear and the Blind can see.”   Mark Twain

“Fear is optional.” Michael Flaherty

“There are people who would love to have your bad days. Stay grateful.” Rick Magnani

For Your Prayer “Toolbox”

we offer these prayers created by local and other spiritual leaders (see Tip No. 7, above)